Free In-Person Workshop at The Shop

Would You Mind?

Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

A practical, open-format workshop about saying no with less guilt, setting clearer boundaries, and asking directly for what you want.

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Free to attend. Advance registration is required.

It should not be this complicated

Do any of these feel familiar?

You say yes when you mean noYou agree because disappointing someone feels worse than ignoring what you want.

You struggle to askYou hint, soften, or avoid the question because asking directly feels demanding.

You overexplain boundariesYou feel like your “no” needs a reason, an apology, or someone else’s approval.

These are learned behaviors, not character flaws. They can be unlearned.

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Upcoming Workshop

The workshop covers the same core idea, but the open discussion changes with the people in the room. Attend once or come back again for a future session.

Free Workshop

Wednesday, July 29

7:30 PM to 9:00 PM

The Shop Social Lounge
McKees Rocks, Pennsylvania

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Featured at Eroticon 2026

Would You Mind? at Eroticon 2026

August 6 through 9, 2026 | Atlanta, Georgia

Saturday, August 8 | 2:00 PM to 3:00 PM
Diving School B

Would You Mind? is expanding beyond Pittsburgh. See the workshop live at Eroticon, an adult-focused convention built around education, connection, and community.

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A better way to ask

It starts with one simple phrase.

Would you mind…?

Changing the way you ask can make honesty easier. “Would you mind?” gives you a more comfortable way to ask for what you want while leaving room for a clear no. The same approach can help you voice your own no without turning it into a confrontation.

What happens in the workshop

We start by introducing a simple way to rethink how we ask and answer. Then the room opens into a group discussion using real situations and everyday examples.

Learn the framingSee how changing the question can change the conversation.

Discuss real situationsBring a question, example, or situation you have struggled with.

Find usable wordsExplore clearer language for asking, declining, and setting boundaries.

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Not just for dating

Use it anywhere you need to be clear.

The discussion and examples may involve dating, flirting, and relationships, but the same communication problems show up with friends, family, coworkers, clients, and everyday requests.

Relationships
Family
Friendships
Work
Everyday life

Your facilitator

Facilitated by Gelsomino

Gelsomino is the co-owner of The Shop Social Lounge and the creator of Would You Mind?, a practical workshop built around a common problem: too many people say “yes” when they mean “no”, and, or struggle to ask for what they actually want.

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Hosted at The Shop

The Shop Social Lounge is a private, inclusive social space in McKees Rocks, Pennsylvania. Workshops are held in a relaxed, discussion-based environment where participation is always your choice.

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Bring Would You Mind? to your community

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Would You Mind? can be presented for conferences, clubs, private communities, educational programs, teams, and organizations.

Tell us about your location, preferred timing, and what you want the workshop to help address. Submitting the form just starts a conversation, zero obligations.

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Questions

Is the workshop really free?Yes. There is no charge to attend. Space may be limited, so advance registration is required.

Is this only about sex or dating?No. We may use attraction, flirting, and relationships as examples, but the approach applies anywhere people make requests, set boundaries, or need to say no.

Will I have to speak or share something personal?No. The discussion is open, but participation is always optional. You control what you share and may decline any activity or question.

Can I attend more than once?Yes. The framing stays consistent, but each discussion is shaped by different questions and real-world examples.

Can I bring this workshop to my event or organization?Yes. Use the workshop request form above to tell us about your audience, venue, timing, and goals. The workshop can be adapted for different communities while keeping its core focus on clearer requests and boundaries.

Where can I find the attendance details?Choose a date above to open its Shop event listing. That page contains the current registration and attendance information for that workshop.

Stop saying yes when you mean no.

Learn a clearer, more comfortable way to say no, set a boundary, and ask for what you want.

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