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How to Have Better Sex: Smile for Better Sex

Greetings and welcome, dear reader, to an exploration of the transformative world of tantric practices and their benefits for personal wellbeing, sexual health, and intimacy. Today, we invite you to embark on a journey as we delve into the foundational practice in the Tantric Arts from China: the Healing Smile for better sex. 

This technique has been celebrated for centuries for its ability to connect us with our bodies, release stored tension, and enhance pleasure and intimacy. So take a deep breath, settle in, and allow us to guide you on a journey of inner exploration and transformation through the Healing Smile.

Defining The Healing Smile

The Healing Smile is a powerful mindfulness and meditation practice that focuses on cultivating positive energy and directing it toward one's organs and body systems. In Taoist teachings, this practice is used to sexual energy and revitalize the body by stimulating the flow of life force energy, also known as “qi” or “chi.” By smiling inwardly and concentrating on positive emotions, practitioners can remove negative energy and facilitate a more harmonious and balanced state of being.

Personal Benefits – Enhancing Intimacy and Sexuality

The Healing Smile helps to balance the flow of energy in the body, reduce stress and tension, and promote overall health and wellbeing. Additionally, this practice helps to cultivate a deep sense of self-love and acceptance. These can have profound effects on our emotional and mental health as well. Overall, the Healing Smile is a valuable tool for anyone looking to improve their overall health and wellbeing, and it is especially beneficial for those seeking to cultivate a more profound sense of inner peace and balance.

Increased emotional intimacy

Cultivating positive emotions through The Healing Smile helps to strengthen emotional bonds, leading to more profound and meaningful connections.

Enhanced sexual pleasure

By focusing on your internal smile and positive energy, you can heighten your senses and increase your awareness of your body and your partner's, leading to more pleasurable and satisfying sexual encounters. 

Improved communication

Regularly engaging in The Healing Smile meditation can help to build trust and openness between partners, promoting clearer and more effective communication during intimate moments.

Harmonious energy exchange

The practice facilitates the flow of positive energy between partners, creating a balanced and harmonious atmosphere that fosters deeper connections and more fulfilling experiences.

Tao Tantric Arts and The Healing Smile

Within the Tao Tantric Arts, The Healing Smile holds a special significance. It serves as a foundation for establishing a deeper connection with oneself and one's partner. The practice is known to enhance intimacy, improve communication, and create a harmonious energy exchange. Ultimately, fostering a more profound and fulfilling experience during sensual encounters.

Here’s a short video introducing the basic practice. It is a 2 minute YouTube video with intro and instructions for self practice.

Incorporating The Healing Smile into Your Intimate Life for Better Sex

To incorporate The Healing Smile into your Tao Tantric practice to enhance and work towards better sex

Follow these simple steps

  1. Get Comfy: Sit or lie down in a relaxed position, either alone or with your partner. Ensure that your body is comfortable and free from any tension.
  2. Begin by taking slow, deep breaths. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth, allowing your body to relax further with each breath.
  3. Close your eyes and imagine a warm, radiant smile emanating from your heart center. Feel this smile spreading throughout your entire body, filling you with good and happy and joy.
  4. If you're practicing with a partner, take a moment to visualize your internal smiles merging. Thereby creating a powerful exchange of loving energy. Allow this shared energy to deepen your connection and enhance your sensual experience.
  5. Direct the energy. While maintaining your internal smile, focus on directing the positive energy toward specific areas of your body or your partner's body that may benefit from increased sensation or relaxation. Envision the loving energy heightening pleasure and fostering a greater sense of connection and intimacy.

Putting the Smile into Practice for Better Sex

This practice can be profound when offered to erogenous zones.  Let’s say your partner has a vulva and you want to offer it a smile. You would drop into the smile – and send it to your hand, as you gently cup your palm over your partner’s vulva – and breathe together.   

Try this and see how it goes.  Remember – you are in charge, and if it doesn’t feel like a good idea – there’s no need to force. Also – if you’re autistic like I am, smiling towards someone without looking at them works just as well. 

In Service, Katie 

Katherine ZitterbartArticle by Katherine Zitterbart

Katherine is a multidisciplinary – multimedia educator, facilitator, and healing artist whose work centers Sexuality, Somatics and Sound Healing.  She works primarily with folks in the LGBTQIA+, chronic illness/pain, and Neurodivergent communities – as well as folks in helping roles.  Katie sees people in person in Pittsburgh PA, and online everywhere.

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